Renovating is not unlike a Christian’s life. The Good Lord purchased the property and the Holy Spirit moves in. He takes a look around and starts making plans about what needs to be done. It is often uncomfortable while the work is being done…we feel grungy and dirty all the time as decades old dust settles everywhere till the project is complete. We may not like all of the changes, but like any General Contractor, he is the one in charge and we are sub-contractors…tearing out, cleaning up, and putting on the finishes so that He can have a proper place to dwell…..
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I is incredibly easy for us to put people in a box and then pile onto them the expectations that correspond to that position. You fill a need in an organization or in someone’s life and for the rest of your tenure there you are that person. To be honest, we often place ourselves in a box of expectation as well…This is the problem with expectations – everyone has their own version of what should be, and very few agree on what is.
Jesus does call us “friends” and He desires to be closer than a brother to us, whether He is or not is really dependent on us. But I believe this verse also tells us there can be those people in our lives whom he can work through to fill the role of “closer than a brother”. And that we can fill that role in someone’s life as well.
So often we jump into something without really thinking it through. We fly on the wings of emotion and conjure up imaginary scenarios of how it will be, then when we finally get there we find holes and cracks and mismatched pieces held together with little more than Elmer’s glue…fodder for the workshop bonfire.
We are not the one who holds the power or wields it. We are not the one who has the answers or provides the solution. We are not the one who can see from the beginning to the end and every point in between. We do not make the rules…but we can know the one who does.
Why? Why should I go above and beyond what justice demands? Why would I allow myself to be vulnerable to the hurt and pain and anger again? Why would I put myself at risk again?
When our feelings are hurt or when we are slighted, emotions rise to the surface and sway us into a mindset that desires the offender to feel the same kind of pain as we do…so now we are both hurting. There must be someone above all the fray, to see clearly the wrong done and the payment due. There must be an Authority who makes the rules and dishes out the penance.
It has taken me quite some time to realize there is nothing I can do to make things happen in the way I want them to or hold back the turning of the pages of life…all is in His hands and it is my choice to surrender now and follow His leading…